Now I know that’s a pretty big claim to make (and bearing in mind what I do for a living, possibly an unexpected one). So let’s explore: Firstly, managing anything takes time and energy, and there’s not much to spare when you’re stressed out. Slacken off the effort, and the stresses build back up again. Many techniques don’t work at all unless you do them often, so it can become yet another big commitment.
Managing stress is an away-from motivation – to get away from its unpleasant effects. Like taking a stone out of your shoe, once the discomfort’s gone, you just carry on as you were. But unfortunately, that stress tends to come back. So it’s easy to end up yo-yo stressing. It builds up, you start doing something different, it reduces, you stop and it builds up again….
And that’s the advantage of the skills to change the underlying stress response. It’s like taking the stone from your shoe, in a way that it doesn’t come back….